Dear Birth Parent:

It is my pleasure to write this letter of reference for Karla and her husband Randy. I first became acquainted with Karla four years ago through an infertility support group. Within a very short period of time, it became clear to me that Karla is a well-loved and well-respected member of this community. She was always one of the first people to offer support and advice to anyone who needed it. She was always there to answer any technical questions that she could, to be a hearty cheerleader for anyone undergoing treatment, and to be a constant source of support for everyone.

One of the most telling things about Karla’s character is her genuine joy for those who have “graduated” and achieved pregnancy and motherhood. It is often not difficult to share in someone’s sadness, but it can be extremely difficult to share in someone’s joy, particularly when you are struggling with the same desire. Karla is truly happy to see others’ dreams come true and this is indicative of her kind and loving nature. She has lifted the spirits of many others, including myself, at the times when we needed it the most.

Gradually, Karla and I became closer friends, often seeing each other outside of our group gatherings. Her emails, cards and gifts were always heartwarming reminders of her friendship, loyalty and caring. Her husband, Randy, has a quiet and soft-spoken nature about himself, but it is clear that the loving bond they share is as solid as they come.

In addition to being new parents, my husband and I are also the proud mother and father to our adopted daughter. We know, first hand, that the decision to place a child for adoption is one that is not taken lightly. We also know the choosing of potential adoptive parents is a decision that is weighed even more heavily. As Karla’s friend, I have absolutely zero hesitation in stating that she and her husband will be amazing parents! I know, with complete certainty, that the children in Karla and Randy’s lives will be loved and cherished most of all. I support them 200% in not only their pursuit of adoption, but also as (adoptive) parents. During these last few years, my heart has ached for my wonderful friend, knowing better than anyone that this special couple, who longs for a child of their own, has been kept waiting for so long!

With warmest regards,

Tori
Friend